Did You Make It?

What did you want to be when you were a kid? Did you do that, or did you wind up doing something totally different?

I was having a conversation with Neil the other night about his college days. He went to college on a music scholarship for trumpet. He only lasted a year because being young, he didn’t want to take any more Math and English classes. He only wanted to play trumpet in an orchestra somewhere. He doesn’t regret his decision. He says if he ended up doing what he went to college for he wouldn’t have ended up with the friends he has…or me, of course, lol.

I wanted to be either a lawyer or a writer when I was young. I fooled around in high school too much, so I ended up going to community college. Not a bad place to start, especially if you don’t have the grades or money is a little tight. I did alright. I had good grades in my writing and pre-law classes, but my parents were going through a divorce and the money just wasn’t there.

I worked various jobs, including being a law clerk, but ended up spending most of my life in the hospitality industry. I would write here and there, but never took any steps to make a career out of it, until now. Last year I decided to take the leap and say I am a writer.

I started this blog and have been really happy with it. It got the creative juices flowing again. I also write on another platform called Medium. I am really liking how that platform works and really looking forward to seeing growth in my writing. I am also working on self-publishing a work of fiction.

Along the way I discovered I also wanted to be a life coach and I am working towards getting that business started. I am meeting with my first client today. All my life people have been seeking my advice and asking for help in figuring things out, it seems like a natural choice for me.

How about you? Did you know what you wanted to be when you grew up and did you accomplish that? Did you find something more suited to you than that initial career choice? Let me know in the comments.

And remember, it’s not too late to try something new. I have read stories of people becoming doctors and lawyers in their later years. Anything is possible if you believe it.

***Question for the comments…What did you want to be when you grew up? Are you doing that or did your path change?

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Life Coaching…What is it?

I have always been good at giving people advice. I don’t know why, but people always ask for my opinion on different aspects of their lives, and I have always been able to guide them in the right direction. Or at the very least, given them things to think about to help them in their quest towards finding the right path.

For years I always said I would make a good Life Coach and I kept telling people I would love to do that. Everyone said I would be great at it, but I didn’t know where to begin. Until the pandemic hit. Some things are Divine Appointments, right?

I was home doing nothing, like most people were in the spring of 2020 and scrolling through Facebook when I saw an ad. It was for a Master Life Coach certification and the company was offering 90% off as a “pandemic special”. I thought “that’s cool” and kept on scrolling. Then, I saw it every day, multiple times a day, and finally I decided to look at it. For $49 it was a course for 4 different types of certifications and that made a Master Certification. Hmmm…intriguing…I read on.

After going on the website, I found the company to be legit and decided to sign up. I mean for 49 bucks; can you really go wrong? I loved it! It was a go at your own pace course, so I sat in front of the computer for hours a day soaking up the information I would need to help people. I got through the course, received my certification and then, in true Tracie fashion, did nothing. (Life Coach heal thyself.)

What is a Life Coach? A Life Coach will help you figure out how to reach your goals. A lot of people have a hard time figuring out exactly what they would like to do in life both personally and professionally and a Life Coach can help them figure that out and give them strategies to get there. It is NOT therapy, that is something totally different.

If you have been with me for a while, you know I have a problem with follow through. I go round and round between 4-5 different career choices and never follow through on any of them. That is because I am what they call multi-passionate. I want to do it all, but then end up doing nothing. A lot of people fall into this category. Some people can do all 5 things and be great at them. I cannot. I need to choose.

And so, I have decided to choose Life Coaching and Writing. I am good up to two, after that nothing gets done to completion. I have chosen a name for my company and made an email address for it. I am stoked because I always like to help people and can now do it on a larger scale. I had a meeting last year with a friend of mine who does this for a living on a large scale and asked for her advice. She told me I would be really good at it and gave me some tips to get there. Why didn’t I do it then? Because I was scared.

I have never run a business before and that was/is the holdup. I didn’t want the running of the business to be wrong. The helping people part I can do, that has never been the issue. I was listening to a podcast the other day by a big-time network marketer, and she said to just go do it, even if it’s messy. You learn by doing. It’s not going to be perfect at first, but it will get better the more you do it. I am taking her advice, thanks Jessie Lee. I am still nervous about doing it wrong, but I’ve been wrong before and I will be again…it’s all good.

***Question for the comments…Have you ever not done something out of fear of failure? When you look back on it now can you see how it could work, even if you did it messy? Does that make you want to try it again?

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Making Decisions

I have such a hard time making decisions sometimes. Not the easy decisions, like what to wear or what to do today, I am talking about big life decisions like where to live or what to do with my life. I have talked before about how I have so many ideas swirling around in my head that sometimes it hard to make the right choice. How do you ever really decide what the right choice is?

That is my problem, and I am sure it happens to a lot of people as well. What is the right path? What happens if I make the wrong choice? Will I screw everything up? These thoughts sometimes take over my mind and the problem is that I let it overwhelm me so much, that I do nothing. That’s right, I sit there and stew in my indecision and never accomplish anything.

Or, I start one thing and get sidetracked by the next new shiny thing, thinking that is really the thing I should be doing, and I end up with a lot of half-finished projects and I am disgusted with myself. I know I have talked about it before, and I probably will again. It helps me to figure it out by writing it down.

This blog is a good example. I started it because I knew I wanted to be a writer. I figured it was a great way to get my thoughts down and share them with the world. I love my blog. The Squiggle Line Cafe is a place for all my ideas and thoughts. But, for the past nine months I have also been looking around the website Medium. It’s a place for writers to do their thing and if you get enough people reading your stuff, then you can make a living on Medium. Well, you can make a living blogging also, but I was chasing the bright shiny toy. I kept going back and forth and was losing faith in the thing I had created. But here’s the thing, I really don’t like Medium, for me. It’s a great website, but it was distracting me from what I know is right for me.

My sister and I do this thing when we have a problem making a decision. We will discuss all the options and what’s good and not good about each thing. Let’s use where I live as an example. Before moving to Hawaii, I lived in New Jersey. I had a couple of places I was looking at as a possible next destination for me. They were, San Francisco, New York, Philadelphia and Honolulu. We talked at length about each place and the pros and cons of each. All of a sudden, while I was in the middle of a conversation, my sister would blurt out, “Philadelphia or New York?” And one popped into my head automatically. O.K., so the other one was out of the running, because that wasn’t what I really wanted. Finally, the choice was Honolulu…and we all know that was the right choice for me.

Do you have a hard time making the right choice for you? Look at the quote by Layne Beachly in the picture up top. It’s true, the first thing that comes to mind is the right choice. If you honestly ask what you want, the answer will come. And when the answer comes…stick with it. Go all in and make it happen. Live your decision to the fullest and it will be the best thing. Do not waver and go back and forth to the other things you were contemplating, if they were the right choice, you would have picked them.

I knew I always wanted to be a writer, but I never chose that path for whatever reason. I did a lot of other things that were cool, and I liked, but I was never really satisfied. It took me a long time to come to that conclusion. I tried to do a lot of things I thought I would like, but they were just not me. Have I wasted all that time? Yes and no. Yes, because I could have been writing all this time and no, because I would have missed out on a lot of great things. I should have been writing the whole time. But I let fear and the opinion of others keep me from it. Don’t let that happen to you.

Make your choice on what you know you really want. The right decision is inside of you. It just may take a little coaxing to get out. If you are deciding between a couple of things, just put your hand over your heart and ask. Listen to the first thing and go for it.

***Question for the comments…How do you make decisions? Is it easy or hard? Do you have a system when you have to choose between a couple of things?

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