What Am I Waiting For?

I am so full of it sometimes. I help people with their own lives all the time and I am really good at it. I am actually a certified master life coach, but I have yet to start a business. What I am not good at is running my own life sometimes.

We have discussed this before, many times, about how I get myself into some rut and wallow in my own self-pity with a little depression thrown in for good measure and here I am again. The funny thing is I haven’t really been here for a while. It happened a lot before I moved to Hawaii, and I mean a lot, but only a couple of times since being here. But I felt it creeping up on me for some time and now that I have actually realized what is going on I have to ask myself…What would Gidget do?

I have always loved Gidget. Ever since I was a little girl and saw Sally Field on a rerun, I have wanted to live her life. Kinda funny for a self-proclaimed city girl, but it is true. I wanted to have the spunk she had and the adventure. I do have that to a point, I know. I go out and do a lot of things that other people wouldn’t, but I stop just before hitting the mark I want to. Life Coach heal thyself…

I guess I am bringing this up because of my Hawaii anniversary. I moved here wanting to learn how to surf and play on the beach in Waikiki, to learn how to play the ukulele…to live out my Gidget fantasy. I had the idea all formulated in my mind, but then I got scared and didn’t do it and I don’t know why. I had friends willing to teach me, but I always blamed it on my bad knees and blah, blah, blah. Yeah, my knees are bad, but only because I need to lose some weight. All the excuses are my doing and my fault. And I am finally at the point of being able to crawl out of the hole I dug for myself and get moving on the next 10 years of life in Hawaii.

So, how do you get yourself out of a rut and back on track? Take the time to think about what you wanted and why it hasn’t happened yet. Let’s take me and surfing as an example. I love the water, but maybe I am not as strong a swimmer as I used to be. Or maybe I am afraid to try because I feel my upper body strength needs work so I can actually paddle out to the lineup. Ok, these are valid points (and how I feel for real), but they can be dealt with by actually swimming more and doing surf exercises for upper body.

Get out a piece of paper and a pen and write down what is holding you back. Jot down everything, even if you think it is silly and take an honest look at each item. Then decide what you can do to overcome each objection. We can do just about anything we set out minds to; we just have to make the decision that our dreams are more powerful than out fears.

If you are in a holding pattern with something you always wanted to do, don’t let the fear continue to be in charge. I am going to start today towards my surfing dream. It is time for me to get back into healthier eating habits and working out. I am going to swim more to become stronger in that area and do yoga, so my body is more flexible when I do stand up on that first wave and ride it in…Gidget would be so proud!!!

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Happy Anniversary to Me!!!!!

10 years ago today I got on a plane and made my way from Philadelphia to Honolulu. I never had Hawaii on my radar as a place to live. I have always been the city girl. Give me tall buildings, the roar of the traffic, a coffee shop on the corner, and some exposed brick in my apartment and I am good to go. I loved going down the shore for vacation, but as a permanent residence…never gave it a thought.

Last year I wrote a blog post about how I decided to make the move here, so I won’t go into that now. You can go back and take a look at it if you want to. Today, I want to just talk about my love for Hawaii and how happy I am to be here. It really is the right place for me, God knew what he was doing when He put the thought in my head.

I was fortunate enough to have a job waiting for me at The Cheesecake Factory in Waikiki, I just needed a place to live and settle in. I remember my first morning here. I got in late on a Friday night, so I just went to sleep and woke up the next morning ready to go. I walked all around Waikiki and saw all the places I had seen on the map. I ended up in a park that was having a health fair and giving away free shave ice. I stood in line and got a small rainbow cone and made my way over to a park bench to watch the waves. I called my sister and told her I was home. She told me I was crazy; I hadn’t even been there for 24 hours. I told her it didn’t matter…I knew.

48 hours after I got on the plane I walked into Hope Chapel Waikiki and my destiny was set. I knew I wanted to get back into church. I had been away for a long time, and it was a good place to meet some nice people. I was greeted right away and introduced to some people. This was the group that has become my core, my Hawaii family. I can’t imagine not knowing these people, at the age of 42 I finally met the love of my life.

I have lived a lot of places in my life and met a lot of people. Other than my family, there have only been two sets of people that I have been close to, my youth group peeps of my teens and early twenties and my Hawaii crowd. I am a social butterfly, but normally I don’t get close, I am close to these people. I have found my place in this world, and I don’t plan on leaving. In fact, I have not been on a plane since I got here. I never felt “island fever”, so I haven’t felt the need to go anywhere, LOL.

I love this island. I love to cruise around, stop to go swim and get a shave ice after a plate lunch. I love hanging out with friends playing music and having a few beers with something to nibble on. Yes, food is a big thing here and the food is great. I am not that adventurous when it comes to trying new things, but I do have a few island favorites. Never in a million years did I think I would eat spam, but I love musubi. I eat rice for breakfast with eggs and Portuguese sausage. My all-time favorite thing is Loco Moco. It’s rice with a hamburger patty with brown gravy all over with an egg on top and a side of macaroni salad. Whenever I try a new place to eat it’s my go to.

There are so many things I could say in my love letter about Hawaii, but the post would be too long. Just know this, I sometimes look around and feel like I have been here all my life and then there are times I look around and I can’t believe I get to live in Hawaii. It is a strange combination of feeling like a long time local but with all the surprise and wonder of being a newbie. I wouldn’t have it any other way…ALOHA

Under Construction

I have decided to change things up a bit in the next few weeks. I have been writing this blog for almost a year now and I feel like I am in a rut. I know that I need to keep a certain weekly pace with the number of posts I write and the time of day I publish, but I feel like I need to shake things up a bit.

I appreciate the ones who read me faithfully and always have a like or a comment and I hope you will continue to do so; I am just ready to try a few more things to see what people like or don’t like. Your feedback will be very helpful.

I am going to try a few different themes, different days, maybe different times for publication. I need to do this to myself every so often, it keeps things interesting. I get bored easily, I admit it, and this keeps things lively. So, please be on the lookout for the notifications of when the blog gets published, don’t always look for it at its normal time.

What’s going to change? I am not quite sure. I know everyone likes a personal story and everyone likes my crazy rants about things, that will still be here, but I am going to add maybe some more flash fiction pieces and other types of articles. Maybe some how-to kind of stuff. I want to write more spiritual things; I know Jesus hasn’t always been a big hit among my readers, but I have some ideas I would like to share, so I hope you will indulge me.

If you have a topic you want to hear about, now is the time to tell me. I want to say Thank You to those who have brought me subjects in the past. I have another one from James I am currently working on and will come out this month. When I am given a topic, I feel like we are having a better conversation, instead of me just talking at you. But no worries if you don’t have a topic in mind…you know I can talk at you all day long, LOL.

That’s it for today, just a heads up as to what the next week or two will look like. I probably will not be posting 4 times a week. I think I will keep it at 3 for now, but you never know, maybe I will get into a daily groove…maybe not…stay tuned.

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Best Laid Plans…

You think you got it all figured out. The schedule is set, plans are made and then…bam…something happens, and everything falls apart. What do you do? Do you try to salvage the original plan, or do you start all over again from scratch or do you just say forget it, obviously it wasn’t meant to be?

This is where I was at last night. The evening was set for dinner and just watching a little television. My idea for today’s blog was already formed and ready to go. I had a good day watching the CrossFit Games, but then all hell broke loose. The rest of the evening was spent in the Emergency Room.

Neil’s right arm became more numb than normal (side effect from a small stroke 5 years ago) and it wouldn’t stop, so off we went to the hospital. Let me tell you something…it is not like you see on television. There is no rushing around of staff, nobody running in and out checking vitals and beating on chests to bring anyone back alive and most important and most disappointing…no George Clooney coming in with that smile, telling you everything is going to be okay. It was just boring waiting for them to take him down for an MRI and then another long wait to get the results that said he was fine, just his blood pressure got a little high and we could go home. So, off we went, got something quick to eat and went to sleep. Well, he slept, I was up for hours watching “Two and a Half Men” on my phone.

The plan this morning was he was going to go to work. Okay, that’s fine if he was up for it and then I would sit down and write the blog as normal. Nope, we both went back to bed, and I decided to not write the blog today. I figured I would be forgiven as soon as I dropped you all a little note telling you what happened last night. I like to keep you updated on all things. But something happened. I woke up at 7:30, the time I normally publish, and grabbed my phone to dash off a quick note but decided I didn’t want to do that. I wanted to sit down and actually write a post. I changed directions and I am glad I did.

I have been writing this blog since last October and there have been only about 4 times I did not publish an actual post…when my brother passed away and when I was sick last week. I hated not posting those times and was kind of mad at myself for not making it happen. So today, I made it happen. I decided it doesn’t matter if I hit publish at the normal time or if I am late. I am not going to just stop in my tracks and let it fall apart…which is my usual MO. I decided to get up and go with the flow and make it happen. And I am glad I did.

So, let me ask you, what do you do when plans have to change? Do you go with the flow and keep the plans moving? Do you start from scratch and rebuild the plan? Or do you just say screw it and let the plan fade away? Does your outlook depend on how big and important the plan was to begin with? Let me know how you pivot in these situations.

It may seem silly, but I am glad I kept this plan today. It’s a small thing, but I made the commitment to publish 4 times a week and I am happy to say that I am in line to make it happen. So many times, I let the plan just fade away and I never get back to it and I miss out on a lot of things. No more…I am going to learn how to readjust when I need to and keep the ball rolling in the direction I want it to be. How about you?

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CrossFit Games Week

This is the week I have been waiting for all season, The CrossFit Games. Some people follow football, some never miss a baseball game, and some watch all the hoops and a bunch of other sports…I watch CrossFit.

We have talked about this before. The idea of all different types of exercises put together in competition form is exciting to me. You never know what you are going to see. I am writing this while watching team competition live on YouTube. I couldn’t do any of these things, let alone is synch with a team of four.

I have watched my favorites go through The Open all the way to get their ticket to the Games in Madison, Wisconsin. The beautiful thing is that anyone can be involved in The Open. If I was a cross fitter and went to my local box, I could sign up with people from all over the world and compete. I would come in dead last, LOL, but it would be a nice feeling to actually be a part of something sporty.

But I am perfectly happy routing for my favorites. I am looking for Tia Clair-Toomey to take another win this year and I am hoping Pat Vellner takes first place in the men’s competition, something that is possible since Mat Fraser retired. I am also looking at the young kids moving up in the ranks. The fire and drive to succeed is insane. I admire that, because I have never felt that big lust to win, in anything. You know me, I am a go with the flow kinda girl, winning was never big on my radar. Not that I think everyone deserves a trophy, I don’t. I think competition and contests are very important to teach about winning at life. It just wasn’t that big of a thing in our house.

So, this is where I will be spending my week, in front of YouTube watching the games and cheering my favorites onto the podium. I will also indulge in my normal fantasies about competing and living the CrossFit lifestyle. I will look up boxes in my area and check out at home workouts as I look into nutritional plans that cross fitters are known to eat. And as each event happens, I will see myself right there, along with everybody else. Dreams are what keeps us going, but you never know…one year I may finally join a box and compete in an open. And I will be totally stoked, even if I come in dead last, because for once, I would have finally gotten out of my comfort zone and competed in something. Que the Queen music, because if that ever happens, I will be eating Wheaties for days and listening to “We are the Champions” on repeat.

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Not the World’s Greatest Patient

I have been down with the flu since last Wednesday and I feel miserable. Before we continue…yes, It’s just the flu. When I get sick, I run through all the symptoms in a crazy orderly fashion. Meaning, I will wake up with a sore throat and it will last a day before moving on to something else or I get it all at once in an epic mad rush 24-hour time frame only to wake up the next morning feeling 100% again. Sickness likes to screw with me.

It’s always been that way. When the mumps made its way through our house, my brother got it on one side, my sister on the other and I was the poor unfortunate soul that got the double whammy…I was 6 years old. I was always a little on the plump side, but having the mumps made me look like a greedy chipmunk getting ready for a long winter.

The next year, I came down with a case of Scarlet Fever, yay me. Totally nasty, but I survived. The only thing is that when I get a fever, I have to be careful because it can go high. Most people get a fever over 101 and they are heading towards the doctor’s office, I can be walking around at 103 and just feel warm. I remember one time my sister almost hopped into the car one late night to come get me in Baltimore because I told her my temperature was over 102. I had to remind her it was normal and to stay home. Thankfully, it broke overnight, and I was able to talk to her before she showed up on my doorstep.

What makes you feel better when you get sick? I am not talking about medicine; I am talking about those little comforts that your mom did you for or you do for yourself now. I am a big fan of grilled cheese, tomato soup and game shows. My mother would have the little portable television set up and bring me lunch as I watched The Price is Right and all the other shows. She always had cream soda for me. There is no scientific proof that cream soda heals anything, but it always made me feel better, so I am convinced it has medicinal properties somewhere.

When I was 24 my mother and stepfather took a vacation to Florida. I woke up one Sunday morning to find 3 strange blemishes near my neck. I drove to church and went hunting for our friend, Dr. Otto. We sang in the choir together and I was youth leader to his kids. There we were, standing in the coatroom with my shirt collar pulled back so he could see. He told me to go home…I had the chickenpox. The chickenpox at 24!!!!! WTH?!?!?!?! He told me to stop at the store to pick up some oatmeal so I could throw it into a sock and make a loofah out of it to soothe the pox. I also picked up some junk food and cream soda. Turns out, I picked up the pox from the neighbor kids I drove to Youth Group. When they say it’s harder to get as an adult…they are telling the truth!!

So, why am I not a great patient? I hate to be cooped up inside doing nothing. I get irritable very fast. I slept most of Wednesday and Thursday this week. I hate to sleep for too long. I like sleep, don’t get me wrong, but too much and I want to pull my hair out. Neil, on the other hand, can sleep 24/7 and be perfectly fine. He has been home sick with me and all he has done is sleep. He wakes up occasionally to take meds, look at his phone and eat, but other than that…snoozeville.

By Friday, I was still down, but totally bored. So, I turned to watching movies. I took a trip down memory lane on Disney+. It started with “Christopher Robin” and then I hit some of the 1970’s classics I grew up with on Sunday nights. “Escape to Witch Mountain” and “Candleshoe” and the horrible 1978 sequel, “Return to Witch Mountain”. Then to make it all complete…last night I watched The Rock in “Race to Witch Mountain.” Wasn’t as bad as I thought it was going to be. I’m telling you right now, if I still feel bad this afternoon, you will find me riding the stagecoach with “The Apple Dumpling Gang”. All I need is some cream soda, grilled cheese and tomato soup.

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