Making Decisions

I have such a hard time making decisions sometimes. Not the easy decisions, like what to wear or what to do today, I am talking about big life decisions like where to live or what to do with my life. I have talked before about how I have so many ideas swirling around in my head that sometimes it hard to make the right choice. How do you ever really decide what the right choice is?

That is my problem, and I am sure it happens to a lot of people as well. What is the right path? What happens if I make the wrong choice? Will I screw everything up? These thoughts sometimes take over my mind and the problem is that I let it overwhelm me so much, that I do nothing. That’s right, I sit there and stew in my indecision and never accomplish anything.

Or, I start one thing and get sidetracked by the next new shiny thing, thinking that is really the thing I should be doing, and I end up with a lot of half-finished projects and I am disgusted with myself. I know I have talked about it before, and I probably will again. It helps me to figure it out by writing it down.

This blog is a good example. I started it because I knew I wanted to be a writer. I figured it was a great way to get my thoughts down and share them with the world. I love my blog. The Squiggle Line Cafe is a place for all my ideas and thoughts. But, for the past nine months I have also been looking around the website Medium. It’s a place for writers to do their thing and if you get enough people reading your stuff, then you can make a living on Medium. Well, you can make a living blogging also, but I was chasing the bright shiny toy. I kept going back and forth and was losing faith in the thing I had created. But here’s the thing, I really don’t like Medium, for me. It’s a great website, but it was distracting me from what I know is right for me.

My sister and I do this thing when we have a problem making a decision. We will discuss all the options and what’s good and not good about each thing. Let’s use where I live as an example. Before moving to Hawaii, I lived in New Jersey. I had a couple of places I was looking at as a possible next destination for me. They were, San Francisco, New York, Philadelphia and Honolulu. We talked at length about each place and the pros and cons of each. All of a sudden, while I was in the middle of a conversation, my sister would blurt out, “Philadelphia or New York?” And one popped into my head automatically. O.K., so the other one was out of the running, because that wasn’t what I really wanted. Finally, the choice was Honolulu…and we all know that was the right choice for me.

Do you have a hard time making the right choice for you? Look at the quote by Layne Beachly in the picture up top. It’s true, the first thing that comes to mind is the right choice. If you honestly ask what you want, the answer will come. And when the answer comes…stick with it. Go all in and make it happen. Live your decision to the fullest and it will be the best thing. Do not waver and go back and forth to the other things you were contemplating, if they were the right choice, you would have picked them.

I knew I always wanted to be a writer, but I never chose that path for whatever reason. I did a lot of other things that were cool, and I liked, but I was never really satisfied. It took me a long time to come to that conclusion. I tried to do a lot of things I thought I would like, but they were just not me. Have I wasted all that time? Yes and no. Yes, because I could have been writing all this time and no, because I would have missed out on a lot of great things. I should have been writing the whole time. But I let fear and the opinion of others keep me from it. Don’t let that happen to you.

Make your choice on what you know you really want. The right decision is inside of you. It just may take a little coaxing to get out. If you are deciding between a couple of things, just put your hand over your heart and ask. Listen to the first thing and go for it.

***Question for the comments…How do you make decisions? Is it easy or hard? Do you have a system when you have to choose between a couple of things?

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Hi, I'm Tracie. I am a writer, reader, life coach, lover of the city and the beach. I am a big fan of all things caffeinated. I dig things from many different decades, but am a definite child of the 80's. My blog is about everything and anything my mind conjures up. Enjoy the ride.

4 thoughts on “Making Decisions

  1. The Old Ben Franklin! Yeeeesss…we know where I’M supposed to be. Well, we finally figured it out. And for all of you reading this, it took my sister 6 weeks from the time she made the decision to the day she moved to Hawaii. What cracks me up is when you ask me (the big question of the month 😁) and both answers come at the same time. That’s screwed up. Donnie would say that’s because I’M screwed up. For once, he’s probably right. And what happens when you get 2 things at once? Mesh ’em!

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  2. I use to ask God and wait for signs…then something profound happen a good friend of mine who doesn’t go to church is a real great person with a good moral compass told me…you love God so much just pick what you want to do and God will bless it…for the most part it works…but there’s a couple of choices I made that never panned out…thing is I learned by my mistakes…dust it off and move on

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