I Have a Love/Hate Relationship W/ My Hair

This one might be a post only the ladies will understand, but you never know, maybe some guys will get it too. I am forever in flux about what to do with my hair. When I was a kid, my hair was long and of course my mother would put it in ponytails and little pigtails with cute little accessories and then 1976 hit. That was the year Dorothy Hamill made a splash in the ice-skating world and my hair was chopped off into that style. It became my signature look for many years.

As I got older, I grew out my hair every so often, you know, to try something new, but it would reach a certain length and when I couldn’t stand it anymore, I chopped it all off again. Short hair became part of my look, my identity. I love short hair. It’s cute and sassy and with the right products, you can do a lot with it.

I am a product girl. There, I said it, I am a product girl, meaning I am forever looking for the right stuff for my various lengths and styles. I have gels, pomades, surf sprays, shine enhancers and my new favorite, dry shampoo. If you were to look in my bathroom right now you would find about 10 different types of hair products by 10 different companies. Some might think I have a problem, and you may be right, but it is the first place I look when I hit Ulta, Sephora and even Walmart and Target.

I was born with thick jet-black hair. It was always nice and shiny and for the most part it would cooperate with anything I wanted to do with it. Then, I found my first grey hair early and I mean early. I was 12. It runs in the family, so we all get hit early, but I wasn’t having any part of that nonsense…enter the land of hair dye. I first dyed my hair at 17.

Through the years I have been all sorts of shades and colors, a habit handed down by my mother. I remember one summer it seemed like she had a different color every week. I am not that bad, but I have tried almost everything. But I am also lazy, so there is a good chance if you bump into me, you will see my hair in a half grey half colored state, which is where I am today. I had a great hairdresser here in Hawaii for almost 10 years and she was the best. I would look on Pinterest, find a bunch of great pictures and colors and send them to her. When I got in the chair for my appointment, we would discuss, agree on something and then she just did her thing. I was always happy with the results. Unfortunately, she had to move back to the mainland, and I am lost without her.

After she left, I decided to just go natural and let my hair grow. My grey is actually a good shade, so why not. I haven’t had my hair really long in years, so I was going to just let it do its thing. For the most part, I love it. Some days it looks perfect in a messy kind of way. It is just long enough for a little ponytail with barrettes. And on the days it has a mind of its own? I am all about the backwards baseball hat or a bandana.

But here is the problem…my Google news feed if currently filled with stories about hair. The top 20 short styles for spring and summer and the best new color ideas. It’s killing me, because now I am getting antsy. Now I am in the Pinterest rabbit hole of style and color. I want to go somewhere today and come out of the shop with a pixie cut as close to my natural hair color as I can get without it looking like an old lady bad dye job. (This shouldn’t need an explanation…you know it when you see it) But I also don’t want to make a rash decision based on emotional overload. Like I said, it’s killing me.

But I am going to try to wait it out. I am going to try to resist the urge that is building up. But, if you see me on the street next week and my hair is short and colored, you will know I lost the battle. You will know I gave in to the temptation I have been struggling with for years, but know this…I will look damn cute, and everything will still be alright in my little corner of the world.

***Question for the comments…Do you change your hair style a lot? What about the color? Do you have a favorite hair care product? Let me know in the comments.

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Hi, I'm Tracie. I am a writer, reader, life coach, lover of the city and the beach. I am a big fan of all things caffeinated. I dig things from many different decades, but am a definite child of the 80's. My blog is about everything and anything my mind conjures up. Enjoy the ride.

16 thoughts on “I Have a Love/Hate Relationship W/ My Hair

  1. Ah the age old question of hair. I too started going grey early. And like you I colored mine off and on over the years. But at some point I asked myself why. Was I doing it for me or was I just trying to please those around me because according to them, “I was too young to be grey.” At that point I stopped coloring it. I like my grey, it’s a nice grey and my texture is great. And the irony now it that people are paying big bucks to go grey – LOL My hair stylist and I laugh about it every time I’m in there. My hair is short, think Jamie Lee Curtis or Ellen DeGeneres. I love wash & go styles, so a short pixie or even a spiked pixie works great for me. I have 2 shampoos I use and I fluctuate between either a styling gel or wax, right now it’s the gel because I’m out of the wax. My shampoos are, ACV by WOW and Rosemary Mint by Sauve Professionals. My gel is by TRESemme.

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    1. I have always known you with short hair and the pics I see now on FB you look great. I do my hair like I do my makeup…always for me. I know right? They spend so much money looking to go grey. And when they turn that naturally…they will spend a ton of money not to have it…too crazy.


  2. YOU might have gone grey early, but I certainly didn’t. My Jay Leno spot didn’t come out until I was past 40.
    My personal opinion ? Leave your hair alone! It’s a GREAT grey and looks good short.
    Speaking of long to short hair…do you remember the tin foil packet of my hair from when she cut off my waist length hair into a pixie? You don’t remember the cut, but the hair packet in Nan’s bottom left-hand drawer…😬
    I do feel your pain and took my shoulder length mop amd just shaved it all off. Ahhh…my cowlicks spike it naturally, no nasty products needed! I personally love the juxtaposition of your really young face and grey hair, but that’s just me.

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    1. I do not remember the packet of hair. I know, I love my hair, but you know how I get. It’s like a someone who is trying to quit smoking…I go as long as I can and then I have to change my hair.


  3. Ha! I am battling with my hair right now too! I am fed up in fact. I cannot figure out what products or how to style my hair in the Hawaii climate. It took me about 5 years to get a handle on it in Denver’s dry climate now 18 months in here and I’m determined to find a solution. Thank you for the product suggestions and I really want to find a good stylist in Honolulu too. Any suggestions? I do color because I tried going grey. All the color completely grew out and then I saw a picture of the back of my head and went back to coloring 😂

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  4. I’m still debating to keep letting my haIr grow or cut it. The last trip to the hair salon here scared me a little. I like my hair short but………. I have never colored my hair. I frosted it once. Paul Mitchell’s Fast drying sculpting spray is my friend. My hair is straight and fine.

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