Valentine’s Day may be right around the corner…warning you have until Monday, LOL, but today I want to talk about all relationships. Friends, family, coworkers, significant others…they are all necessary in making the world go round. This is the second topic my friend James suggested I write about. All he said was relationships, so I have free reign to talk about anything under this heading.
We were made to be a social people and I am very social. I need people around me, if I don’t talk to people on a daily basis, I go a little crazy. Poor Neil, now that I work from home, he gets bombarded with a million questions when he gets home. I don’t necessarily need to see people, but I need to chat. Thank goodness a lot of my work is on social media and by phone.
Relationships are tricky though; they can change at any given time for a number of reasons. You have a difference of opinion with a friend and maybe you don’t speak for a while. Or you don’t like a particular coworker, but you see them every day and have to work side by side, so you have to try to be pleasant while in their company. You have a spat with a significant other…if you live in the same house this can be torture, thank goodness we don’t fight…don’t laugh, it’s totally true. We may get passionate in the middle of a conversation and get a little animated, well I do because it’s in my genes ( irish/italian), but really, that’s about it. Family…that is the worst when disagreements happen.
These are the people you have been with your whole life and if you have a fight and it lasts a long time, chances are you are going to end up seeing them at a holiday function where one of two things is going to happen. Either you will play nice because you don’t want your whole family involved or you are really going to get down and deep right there at the dining room table and people start taking sides. I don’t know though, maybe this just happens in big italian families, let me know in the comments. This hasn’t happened in a while, but my sister and I have gone many rounds. We won’t talk for months, but then somebody texts the other (I won’t say who, lol) and then it’s over like it never happened. We are the different sides of the same coin, she is the ying to my yang, so it always gets worked out.
Thank goodness disagreements are not the norm in most relationships. Nothing is better than the memories you share with these people. I have friends back home that I haven’t seen face to face in almost 30 years, but when I watch a movie or hear a song, I will send them a DM, it is always good to walk down memory lane if the memories are good.
I do not have a relationship with my mother. Things happen and you try to work it out, but sometimes it is better to leave it alone. My pastor told me that if I have forgiven my mother (I have) and if I love my mother (I do) but having a relationship with her is not good for me, then I don’t have to have one. I have a million great memories I have shared with my mother throughout the years, and I think of them often and fondly.
And that is the key to the whole thing. You have to savor all the good times you have with the people in your life. Don’t hold on to the bad things because it’s really not worth it. People are going to come in and out of your life. Who knows how long they will be there but take the time to appreciate them and the time you spend together, because someday, all you are going to have are the memories. Make sure they are great ones.
***Question for the comments…how do you feel about the relationships in your life? Do you remember only the good times, or do you keep reliving the bad times in your head?
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