So, the other day someone paid me a compliment…don’t ask me what it was, I don’t remember. But the moment it came out of their mouth, I started the backtrack. You know what I mean…I laughed and said something stupid like oh no, not me. It was like I refused to believe that about myself. And I know I am not the only one to do this. It got me thinking, why do we do this? Why do we refuse to believe someone can think something positive about us?
I decided to take a poll to see what people do when paid a compliment. A lot of people react like I do, shocking, I know, LOL. Someone says, “I love your outfit” and you immediately respond with “This old thing? It was like 10 bucks at Walmart.” Someone says “You’re so funny.” And you respond with, “Yeah, I guess I can be sometimes.” What in the world is our problem?
This person is saying they like something about us and we shoot them down like they don’t know what they’re talking about. How hard is it to just say a simple thank you? Do we have such low self esteem that we don’t believe anything good about ourselves? Do we think if we don’t play it down we will come off as arrogant and douchey? I really don’t know the answer, but I do know that we have to change the way we think about ourselves and the way we answer when given a compliment.
Think about when you give someone a compliment and the person responds to you like this…how to you feel? I usually comeback with a “yeah you are” or “yes it is” depending on what I’m talking about. And if they keep going on with the no’s and not me talk, then I actually get a little bit agitated and wish I had kept my mouth shut.
But, I don’t want to keep my mouth shut. I gave a compliment, because I truly believe the statement I just said and I want the other person to know it. Just like people do to me. So, I have to rethink how I respond to the compliments people give me.
The next time you pay me a compliment, I will respond with a simple “thank you.” Or, if I don’t believe it about myself….”Thank you for seeing that in me.” And if I start the backtrack nonsense…you can totally call me out on it.
***Question for the comments…How do you respond to compliments? And how to you feel when you give someone a compliment and they refuse to see it in themselves?
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